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The Dark Side of Believing in True Love
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<blockquote data-quote="cheryl" data-source="post: 870" data-attributes="member: 1"><p><a href="http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20190211-the-dark-side-of-believing-in-true-love" target="_blank"><strong>The Dark Side of Believing in True Love - BBC</strong></a></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Old-fashioned romantics might have the wrong idea about love. Strong beliefs in true love could be blinding you to both the good and bad in your partner, with sometimes toxic results. </em></p><p></p><p>Have you ever explained issues you have with your partner to your friends, only for them to think they are not worth worrying about? Or have you seen a friend start a new romance with someone you think is completely unsuitable but they seem to go from strength to strength?</p><p></p><p>Psychologists have found two scales that influence how we start and maintain relationships.</p><p></p><p>One measures how much importance we put onto first impressions and early signs of compatibility, while the other measures how likely we are to work through problems in relationships. They are called implicit theories of relationships (because we don’t often talk about them). We might intuitively think of ourselves as more or less likely to believe in true love – but this is not something that we openly discuss with others or are conscious of when we start new relationships.</p><p></p><p>Together, these two scales can tell us if we are more likely to avoid talking about issues with our partners, look for faults where they might not exist, and ‘ghost’ our way out of relationships. Differences in these implicit attitudes can also help us understand the reasons that others’ romantic choices often seem inexplicable to us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cheryl, post: 870, member: 1"] [URL='http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20190211-the-dark-side-of-believing-in-true-love'][B]The Dark Side of Believing in True Love - BBC[/B][/URL] [I] Old-fashioned romantics might have the wrong idea about love. Strong beliefs in true love could be blinding you to both the good and bad in your partner, with sometimes toxic results. [/I] Have you ever explained issues you have with your partner to your friends, only for them to think they are not worth worrying about? Or have you seen a friend start a new romance with someone you think is completely unsuitable but they seem to go from strength to strength? Psychologists have found two scales that influence how we start and maintain relationships. One measures how much importance we put onto first impressions and early signs of compatibility, while the other measures how likely we are to work through problems in relationships. They are called implicit theories of relationships (because we don’t often talk about them). We might intuitively think of ourselves as more or less likely to believe in true love – but this is not something that we openly discuss with others or are conscious of when we start new relationships. Together, these two scales can tell us if we are more likely to avoid talking about issues with our partners, look for faults where they might not exist, and ‘ghost’ our way out of relationships. Differences in these implicit attitudes can also help us understand the reasons that others’ romantic choices often seem inexplicable to us. [/QUOTE]
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