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Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? What to say instead
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<blockquote data-quote="cheryl" data-source="post: 943" data-attributes="member: 1"><p><a href="https://ideas.ted.com/sorry-to-bother-you-but-do-you-say-sorry-too-much-what-to-say-instead/" target="_blank"><strong>Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? What to say instead - ideas.ted</strong></a></p><p></p><p>When we needlessly apologize, we end up making ourselves small and diminish what we’re trying to express, says sociologist Maja Jovanovic.</p><p></p><p><strong>Think about all the times you use the word “sorry” in a typical day. </strong>There are the necessary “sorry”s — when you bump into someone, when you need to cancel plans with a friend. But what about the unnecessary “sorry”s? The “sorry, this may be an obvious idea” at a meeting, the “sorry to cause trouble” when rescheduling a haircut, the “sorry, there’s a spill in the dairy aisle” at the supermarket.</p><p></p><p><strong>Canadian sociologist Maja Jovanovic believes the “sorry”s we sprinkle through our days hurt us. </strong>They make us appear smaller and more timid than we really are, and they can undercut our confidence.</p><p></p><p>Jovanovic, who teaches at McMaster University and Mohawk College in Hamilton, Ontario, became interested in this topic when she attended a conference four years ago. The four women on a panel were, she says, “experts in their chosen fields. Among them, they had published hundreds of academic articles, dozens of books. All they had to do was introduce themselves. The first woman takes a microphone and she goes, ‘I don’t know what I could possibly add to this discussion’ … The second woman takes the microphone and says, ‘Oh my gosh, I thought they sent the email to the wrong person. I’m just so humbled to be here.’” The third and fourth women did the same thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cheryl, post: 943, member: 1"] [URL='https://ideas.ted.com/sorry-to-bother-you-but-do-you-say-sorry-too-much-what-to-say-instead/'][B]Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? What to say instead - ideas.ted[/B][/URL] When we needlessly apologize, we end up making ourselves small and diminish what we’re trying to express, says sociologist Maja Jovanovic. [B]Think about all the times you use the word “sorry” in a typical day. [/B]There are the necessary “sorry”s — when you bump into someone, when you need to cancel plans with a friend. But what about the unnecessary “sorry”s? The “sorry, this may be an obvious idea” at a meeting, the “sorry to cause trouble” when rescheduling a haircut, the “sorry, there’s a spill in the dairy aisle” at the supermarket. [B]Canadian sociologist Maja Jovanovic believes the “sorry”s we sprinkle through our days hurt us. [/B]They make us appear smaller and more timid than we really are, and they can undercut our confidence. Jovanovic, who teaches at McMaster University and Mohawk College in Hamilton, Ontario, became interested in this topic when she attended a conference four years ago. The four women on a panel were, she says, “experts in their chosen fields. Among them, they had published hundreds of academic articles, dozens of books. All they had to do was introduce themselves. The first woman takes a microphone and she goes, ‘I don’t know what I could possibly add to this discussion’ … The second woman takes the microphone and says, ‘Oh my gosh, I thought they sent the email to the wrong person. I’m just so humbled to be here.’” The third and fourth women did the same thing. [/QUOTE]
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