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A Simple and Powerful Technique for Better Listening
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<blockquote data-quote="cheryl" data-source="post: 461" data-attributes="member: 1"><p><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-refugee-experience/201809/simple-and-powerful-technique-better-listening" target="_blank"><strong>A Simple and Powerful Technique for Better Listening - Psychology Today</strong></a></p><p></p><p><em>Want to strengthen your listening skills? Here's a simple but powerful tool.</em></p><p></p><p>You’d think that as a therapist, I’d be a pretty good listener. Sometimes I am. But too often I find myself not allowing enough silence, not giving clients enough time to gather their thoughts, sit with their feelings, simply <em>be</em> in the presence of a supportive witness. And it’s not just clients whom I deprive of this quiet space; when I respond too quickly with a question, a comment, or a reflection, I also deny myself the gift of time to sit with my own thoughts, feelings, and possible responses.</p><p></p><p>It’s not just in the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy" target="_blank">therapy</a> office. Like a lot of folks, I notice that in everyday conversations, I’m often quick to respond, sometimes “helping” someone finish a sentence (are they truly not capable of finding the words, if given a moment?), or starting to speak before another person has even finished what they were saying. Sometimes people don’t mind; other times, I see a slight tensing up, or closing down, or a flash of irritation.</p><p></p><p>Maybe it’s anxiety, this difficulty sitting with silence. Or maybe it’s just habit, years of responding quickly rather than allowing a small pause before speaking.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cheryl, post: 461, member: 1"] [URL='https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-refugee-experience/201809/simple-and-powerful-technique-better-listening'][B]A Simple and Powerful Technique for Better Listening - Psychology Today[/B][/URL] [I]Want to strengthen your listening skills? Here's a simple but powerful tool.[/I] You’d think that as a therapist, I’d be a pretty good listener. Sometimes I am. But too often I find myself not allowing enough silence, not giving clients enough time to gather their thoughts, sit with their feelings, simply [I]be[/I] in the presence of a supportive witness. And it’s not just clients whom I deprive of this quiet space; when I respond too quickly with a question, a comment, or a reflection, I also deny myself the gift of time to sit with my own thoughts, feelings, and possible responses. It’s not just in the [URL='https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy']therapy[/URL] office. Like a lot of folks, I notice that in everyday conversations, I’m often quick to respond, sometimes “helping” someone finish a sentence (are they truly not capable of finding the words, if given a moment?), or starting to speak before another person has even finished what they were saying. Sometimes people don’t mind; other times, I see a slight tensing up, or closing down, or a flash of irritation. Maybe it’s anxiety, this difficulty sitting with silence. Or maybe it’s just habit, years of responding quickly rather than allowing a small pause before speaking. [/QUOTE]
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